Positive Relationships

     Self love can be seen in many different ways. Some may consider it pampering yourself; getting a pedicure or going shopping, although I do enjoy those things. Self love as far as relationships has reshaped my whole way of thinking and living life. I started with evaluating all my relationships. I started noticing and separating myself from people that just aren't that happy with themselves and their lives. When you truly are happy for someone else's good news or accomplishments you  congratulate them. You don't say things like that s great BUT. If you are going to say but right after a compliment or congratulations you really aren't happy for that person. The hardest self love I've had to do is distance myself from people that I love. You have to do what's right for you and love yourself.  Those are the people that try to put me down when I'm happy. The ones that will always find something negative to say. Although, I do understand the intention of wanting to help. I just don't work that way. Choose your word wisely because they can be very powerful.  Every time some one gives me good news I try and give positive feedback.
     I cant be around people that have just given up on life. No matter how hard it gets we have the power to overcome anything life throws at us. And even when I'm down I tell myself that life is a gift and I have to  make the best of it. Even when I'm freaking out and calling my friends sobbing or cry on my mommies chest, once I let it out I can move forward. Cutting back on unhappy people has really brought my stress level down. Less drama less stress equals a happier more concentrated Me. I have also learned that I cant change everyone and some of these people just don't know how to function without misery. If you can admit that you've made a mistake, you will be able to grow as a person. Otherwise you will always blame others for your mistakes and misfortunes.
     So my goal for all new relationships is to have a positive common ground. Instead of things like abandonment issues or depression. I need to befriend people that have chosen a similar path, as myself like; self love, empowering others, looking at life as a gift, having healthy outlets for sadness. That's how you lower negative and increase positive in life, its all about the relationships that you have with those around you.