My baby brother usually comes over to eat, but today he came to say bye. He's leaving tomorrow morning to Mexico. His girlfriend is coming back with him, he should only be gone about a week or so. Seeing my brother fall in love has been great and it has taught me a lot about a mans point of view as far as romance goes. I have been learning about "game" from my brother for over 10 years. He has always been "good with the ladies" if you know what I mean. And has always shared his wisdom with me. Could be one of the reason I like older men. I never really knew their level of game. I always felt that no matter how harsh or hard my brother was on the outside he always had a good heart and I fell like this way about a lot of people. They just don't know how to express themselves.
For memorial weekend my brother and I went to Banning (about 70 miles from here) to hangout with our cousins. On the drive we got to talk about love and relationships. I let him know how great its been seeing him just be in love. I have seen love affect his others relationships. For example back when I had "The last date with Jojo" (older blog) I was waiting to get picked up for my date and he told me "So is he coming upstairs to meet us?" I was shocked hearing these words come out of my little brothers mouth! For as long as I can remembered he has never cared about my dating life. So I just told him "Ha-ha no". He is actually interested and cares about who I will be hanging out with.
A little over a month ago I had a friend come over we will call him Sheriff Woody and we watched True Romance, you know the one with Christian Slater and Patricia Arquette. Yes I know lots of crazy stuff goes on in the movie but beneath all it he goes and "rescues" her from where she was in life. She is that ride or die girl, that I think most men want. I'm looking at this whole situation with my brother as very symbolic. So when I hugged him and said good bye I kissed him and said "Go get your bride." He's traveling hundreds of miles to another country to get his girlfriend and bringing her back with him, if that doesn't equal romance to you then I don't know what will. I know If a man did that for me I'd marry him! This is real life get real and we aren't living in a fairytale. We have to heave realistic expectations when it comes to love or at least to be able to identify it. You have to have had experienced heartbreak to truly appreciate your 2nd chance at love. I can honestly say that both my brother and I have gone through that, but he dealt with in a different way.
I am still keeping an eye out for love I know they say that it will come when I least suspect it and I have come to the conclusion that I will be single for a GOOD WHILE. This is why I don't take men on dating websites seriously anymore. Dating websites are only potential hook ups. As women we think with our emotions well most of us anyways. We have to be able to separate emotions and actions. I don't know about you but it has been very hard for me. I know some women may perceive me as heartless. I can assure you that I am not but only few friends can actually see that.
Men use our feelings against us I'm only referring to the ones with bad intentions aka the pimps, players or Mujeriegos as my mom calls them. To protect ourselves we have to stop thinking with feelings and start reading between the lines. If I knew what I know now about men it would have saved me a lot of heartache but it is what it is. Of coarse there are extremes to this rule just like anything else. My brother, Big B and Mark have taught me so much about "The Game". That's how men brag by the women they get. Mr. B told me he was so good back in the day that a woman bough him a car. Take a moment to thinks about the level he must have been hustling for that to happen. If your a girl reading this think about a guy you may be talking to or getting to know now. Then ask yourself what level girl are you?
The things that you let a man get away with determine the level that you are on. This is the unfortunate game that we have to learn how to play if we don't want to get hurt or the game you play to get what you want. Some people catch on quick and others keep making the same mistakes. We have to really look at the big picture and learn how to protect ourselves from men and or women just passing through. Because women can be just as bad and or worse than men. I'm not saying I'm perfect because I am not .I've broken some hearts without intention.
The world is filled with a lot of people that just cant or don't want to express how they really feel. I really don't care, I am who I am and if you want to try and use that against me I might just flip it back on you. I still believe in good people with good intentions.
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